How Your Genius is a Bad Wingman

...take a's Tuesday!I like to observe bar behavior. I find endless amusement from the corner of whatever local I find myself. I’ve witnessed much in the way of the mating dance both towards and apart from me.

We need to stop trying to throw game, start enjoying more and be our own best selves.

My new puttypeep friend The Gutsy Geek and I have had some exchanges of late on dating advice and tips. The “neg” is a post in and of itself – I hate that behavior and will expound another time on the greater whys.

Suffice for now, “the neg” is indicative of what is wrong with having a dating or pickup agenda: it is a blatant tactic.

Tactics to connive your way into accomplishing an arbitrary agenda have no place in dating. Tactics have no place anywhere interpersonal relationships are concerned.

What is the difference then between tips and tactics? I’m glad you asked my dear reader.

Let us enter the realm of advice.

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Game Changing Linkage (3_10_12)

Oh yes, I’m one of the 11-billionty people watching and electronically pinging about “Game Changer” at the same time. Yay multitasking. I must say I am enjoying it, despite David Foster Wallace’s assertion that it might be making me dumber by the second. If it was based on a book that is kinda like art though right?

Whatever category, it is not the best thing I have seen this week. For that, we turn to the linkage…


I aim to be this type of partner as well as find one(s) with whom to spend my time. (and “Geekprenur” is my new favorite word)

Our favorite redhead also brings warm fuzzies in uncool PJs with feet with a reminder to mean your Thank Yous

Keep Calm and Carry On: the story behind the posters featuring a blissful bookshop in England. (via @brianpicker) [Read more…]

Linkage, the Family Edition (3_4_12)

My two little– well, younger– brothers came up this weekend so I’ve been sidetracked by games of scrabble and talk of life and adventures. It seems entirely crazy to go out and have a beer with them. They are no longer the little boys that I remember but charming, handsome men, one of which just starting to get a touch of grey at the temples. Little Miss is incredibly taken with her uncles and the visit was all too short.


As much as we are connected by various technologies, nothing replaces being in the same room and sharing a meal together.

That is all to say, links are late. I know I was doing what I ought and would choose to do again but I’m sorry to best the deadline. I am trying to get better at the scheduling thing. Hope you had a pleasant Saturday and are enjoying your Sunday.

Here is what I enjoyed this week when not hangin wit my bros…


I don’t know how I missed including this last week but it is so good it can lead us off this week: A rant on loving photography – all kinds.

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Intentionally Enjoying Beer

“Beer is proof that god loves us and wants us to be happy.”  – attributed to Ben Franklin but apparently mistakenly.

Beer_PumkingIn the supposed source for the quotation he is actually talking about wine (his drink of choice). Now, this is Internet research so who knows, maybe at some point he did say something similar about beer.

If he didn’t say it, he should have.

I wholeheartedly agree with the sentiment. Let us not quarrel over history and merchandizing, let us instead appreciate our cups.

Mostly confident

Since launching this blog I’ve second-guessed my choice of “beer” many, many times.

In Be In I described the additional meaning of “beer” – symbolic of life lived with intentional joie de vivre – whatever joy means to you.

For me the enjoyment – often but not exclusively – is beer.

I am not a lush. I can go a week or 3 without having a beer and usually I hold myself to 1 or 2 when I do imbibe. It is a social and almost culinary passion for me – ditto for coffee. I don’t have many other vices (see: coffee).

Beer is my invitation to myself to have fun.

As I wrote in my intro to “tales from my local” – I don’t like beer because boys like beer (though definite side benefit and yes, I am judging you by what you order). I don’t drink beer to get drunk (bourbon is much more efficient for that). It isn’t the idea of doing something naughty or verboten (tons of better options for that) but alcohol does have its effects and so, of course, ordering a beer is a conscious choice to relax and relish.

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Browser 53 Linkage (2_25_12)

Stacks of Books

I know after my post on the reading-writing connection you have’t been doing any internet surfing and are instead broadening your mind and vocabulary with 19th Century Shipping Trades and Romance Serials. Right?

Thought so. You’ll be happy to know that I finished my book (highly recommend “A Visit from the Goon Squad” btw) and then scoured for the best of the week to share – because I care that much. (and now have a starting stock of 53 tabs of linkage to cull through for your next linkage edition. Oh Browser 2, you myth!)

Because of all your hard enjoyable work reading, we have lots of videos and inspiration this week. Starting with the funniest/geekiest/best fair-use video I have seen… well ever.

Intentional Enjoyment

Side hurting funny Star Wars.


A No Excuses, Kick in the Pants, Get Off your Tukus and Climb Your Mountain call: “Our purpose behind this… If you are unsatisfied with whatever conditions, circumstances are in your life then you have the choice to create the life that you want… Saying ‘Hey I’m capable of living more.'”  – Kyle Maynard a quadruple amputee who climbed Kilimanjaro. (worth waiting through the commercial)

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