After Killer Tribes this past weekend I wanted to write a great wrap-up in which I talked passionately and educatedly about why we should attend conferences, meet ups and interest events to meet like-interest people and network.
The delay in posting today is because I actually did write long and conservatively about all that. But I know there was something missing. Maybe I’m channeling Sarah Mae but I chucked that one.
My fingers instead shake with vibrant urgency of this call:
Jump in, be in, push yourself out there to make real connections.
I’m reminding myself as much as you, my dear reader. Listening to the voice recording I made Sunday on my way to the Tri I can hear the emotion and re-feel the awe and tremors. Granted it was 5:30am, I had slept in a hostel and I hadn’t had a cup of coffee yet… but my voice shakes and I hear the welling tears when I say:
“The Universe is an amazing, amazing place that puts you right where you need to be when you need to be there.”
To that, my caffeinated self would like to make only one addition: you have to meet the Universe part of the way. We have to embrace the process and have the courage enough to get in, be IN, the place the Universe means us to be.
Finding my tribe
At #killertribes I showed up to see Jeff, Steve and even meet Joe. I now know I was meant to meet, among many others, Rebecca, Sarah Mae, Dave and Micah.
I thought the Universe had put certain odds in my favor and instead it flipped and gave me so much better.
We can attend 1000 conferences but if we only get what the speakers are dishing out then we have wasted our time and money. Sure we might find some good inspiration, information and even intentional enjoyment, but once we get over the soothing reassurance we aren’t alone and not entirely crazy, we owe it to ourselves to dig even deeper, go further and make real contact with those that can rock our worlds.
I ventured into unknown spaces and I found individuals who understood, in the space of minutes, more that I could take hours to explain to others, the foundation for real connection and growth.
The part where I talk to myself
Yes, quite literally. I said aloud to myself (numerous times): “Come on Jo, this is why you’re here…”
I needed my urging voice, repeated quite often internally, to get myself in to the coffee shop, atrium, restaurant and then bar.
What was great about being at a blogger’s conference was that others were open about similar struggles, weirdness feelings of uncomfort in the real world. It is relatively easy to write about the need for networking and making connections while hidden behind a laptop and avatar. It is difficult to open the door and face a roomful of real life faces. Plaster on a smile and Do it.
We are often put right where we need to be when we need to be there. If we believe in the crazy cosmos and be IN fully where we are, the Universe will take care of the rest.
I’m ever thankful that I picked just the right seat, heeded a tweet, accepted a lunch invite and finally after a long day bucked up my courage to take yet another leap into a bar. Yes I hemmed and hawed. I spent a full 5 minutes in the car breathing and plucking some unknown reserve of courage (the promise of a beer helped). Yet into the bar I walked. And that, my friends, has made all the difference.
By stretching, reaching, meeting, sharing, and generally pushing well past my confort-zone outside of sessions, I found amazing individuals that needed to hear me as much as I needed to hear them.
Be IN right?
Damn if the Universe doesn’t reward tenacity.
Keep striving to be IN and enjoy those blissful moments,
A million thanks to the stunning, inspirational, generally fabulous people I met. Big kudos to Bryan Allain for an awesome conference to pull us all into the same space.
PPS – To follow my adventures more realtimeish, best way is always @CoffeeBooksBeer